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    Neighborhood Information

    I’ve neglected you, blog. I apologize. Fortunately, since I still have 8 steps to get through, my home search is taking quite a bit longer than anticipated. It’s not that I’m not looking. If you ask my poor, frustrated agent we’ve been out ten times and seen dozens of places. This is an exaggeration, but we have seen a lot. I am picky, but unfortunately I’m also unlucky. I’ve made two offers and both have fallen through for different reasons. But I’ll save those stories for the Make and Offer/Negotiating to Buy sections. I can talk about neighborhood information now though. Since I am single, with no kids and a…

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    Movie Love

    In honor of Valentine’s Day I thought I’d ignore the twelve steps and take a moment to discuss love in movies. Movies are largely responsible for our idea of what love should be, despite the fact that they’re rarely accurate to real life. The best example I’ve thus far seen is what I call the “end of movie coupledom moment”. Have you ever noticed that at the end of these romantic movies the couples seem to always end up in the middle of a city, kissing passionately in some public place? It’s almost always outside and everyone stops to smile at them or has to walk around them. I’m not…

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    Pre-Approval vs. Pre-Qualification

    Pre-Qualification: Answer some questions online or over the phone about what you make, what you spend, what your credit is like, what you think you can afford/want to spend. You answer as you decide. However you decide.The amount you are “pre-qualified” for depends on what you tell the lender. This will not get you a mortgage, just get you an idea, again, based on what you tell the lender, of what you’ll be able to afford. Pre-Qualification: Fill out lots of forms, give personal and financial details that allow the lender to SEE (vs. hear it from you, you big liar) what you make, what your debts are like, and…

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    Define Needs for Your New Home

    The big challenge on this one is to define the NEEDS vs the WANTS. I don’t need hardwoods or built-in bookcases or a third bedroom. My problem is that I want all these things. Since I’ve jumped ahead a few steps I can tell you that making a list of “wants” rather than “needs” actually isn’t a problem. It’s really very fun! Until you start the house hunt and the realization hit you that not only can you not afford the hardwoods, built-in’s and a third bedroom, you can’t afford ANY of them. Unless you enjoy a three-hour commute. But that’s for the ‘Neighborhood’ post…

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    The 10-step Program

    Ha. I know what you’re thinking… I’m missing two steps. Nope. This is the 10 Step Program to Home Ownership, which might drive me to drink and subsequently into the 12 steps but for now I’m just looking at the 10. I’ve decided to document these steps here, and probably some of the in-between steps that they don’t tell you about. I’ve already discovered a great deal of confusion and stress associated with the home ownership path, and the place hasn’t even flooded yet. Quickly, to clarify, I don’t have a home in mind as yet. I actually have been through the first few steps of the 10, but I’m…

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    I’d rather be single than settle

    An excerpt from a book by Jen Schefft ‘Better Single that Sorry’ explains perfectly how I feel about being single. Absolutely perfectly.Readers of this blog hear me complain, a lot, about being single, but this is where I come to do that complaining. I truly enjoy the lack of accountability, freedom and simplicity of being single. Almost all the time.

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    And the "experts" say…

    Watched a fascinating special on PBS about marriages and how they survive. For example, the importance of talking, touching and appreciating each other daily, which seems basic but is easily forgotten. It also looked at the ways in which individuals were raised, how that caused them to deal with stress in everyday life and within a relationship. Most interestingly to me, it looked at the ways couples look at each other. When your happy and satisfied with your significant other they look more attractive to you; when you’re upset, they look slightly less attractive. Furthermore, when you fall in love the brain actually reacts in ways that would seem counter-intuitive:…

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    A Question of Faith

    I have come across several excellent articles over the past few weeks (some posted below, some not) about faith in America, the place of atheists in society and the true value and effect of religious justification and personal prayer. I’m preaching to myself here so it’s a little silly but for no other reason than to save these link, here are a few that I found especially intriguing: Losing Our Religion – Jerry Adler A Dissent: The Case Against Faith – Sam Harris Thank Goodness – Daniel Dennett

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    ‘Tis the Season…

    Do yourself a favor and turn on ‘The Daily Show‘ or ‘The Colbert Report‘ this week or next. These are two show that were designed, built and now run on the most plentiful energy source in entertainment: political satire. And coming up to a week before an election these show are running like the hysterical, overly-lubricated, inappropriate engines of comedy they are.

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    Ouch

    I really hate to post about sad, pointless things but I do think it helps me to write about them. Therefore, heads up: sad and pointless stuff coming. Skip to the next entry. I think I’ve said on here before that I don’t mind being single, and that is absolutely true. About 98% of the time. The other 2 % occurs every now and then. Sometimes just when I see a happy couple. Sometimes when I hear people talking about their significant other lovingly, or even casually in that way that implies care. Sometime I’ll catch that glance between couples, the kind that they instantly understand while everyone else misses…